Be Unapologetic

When it comes to living wide, I’ve realized you have to be unapologetic.

I’ll let that sink in for a moment.

As I shared in the Genesis of Living Wide, my acquaintance who recently passed was very much unapologetic about his life. He wanted to play music for a living, so he did. He never felt the need to rationalize it to other people. If at any given moment he felt convicted to tell you exactly what he thought/felt about you or a decision you’d made, he did whether you needed or wanted to hear it. His choices and decisions were all made unapologetically; no looking back, no second guessing. I have no doubt he picked his path based on the information he had in front of him at the time, and that was it. He charged forward. He didn’t get tangled in the vines of other people’s judgment or expectations.

These “others” are not the authors of your dreams. The day-to-day of your life isn’t their responsibility, it’s yours and yours alone.

When someone seems intent on knocking down your sandcastle, you have to ask, what is their motivation for questioning or doubting me? You then need to stop, remind yourself of all the reasons you chose to spread your arms wide and embrace your decision, and proceed unapologetically. Their choice to only see the obstacles, to dwell in the limitations, is not your problem. You’ve got a life to live. Stop letting other people’s mire matter to you.

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9 thoughts on “Be Unapologetic

  1. Love your blog and the ideas you ponder (more eloquently than most I might add). Keep it going! …just speaking your heart out loud can help bring clarity and also helps us feel less alone. Whether you realize it or not, you are feeding the souls of others in the process; we are listening! :)

  2. Well said! So now that you’ve pondered living unapologetically; how are you going to dive into a life led without fear?
    I think you are right that we need to think about why we are embracing living small and not wide; is it that we value to highly others opinions? On the flip side, I think we should always make sure we get on our knees ( metaphorically ~ I tend to do this standing up as I do the dishes!) and make sure we consult the big J first!

    • Good question Lori. And the short answers is, I’m still not quite sure. Living without fear is never easy. It often means stepping outside what is comfortable, which can be highly alluring. And yes, I think some of it does have to do with valuing others’ opinions a bit too highly. It’s like I said in my first post, where did this list that defines success come from? Making time to pray will definitely help you compile a new list because it the J will give you the ultimate perspective.

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    • Thank you for the suggestion, Gale. I’ve added a subscription feature so you can track all future posts. Living Wide is very much a work in progress so I appreciate all thoughts and ideas.

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